forced marriage

i got busy with school and everything. tere is now a certified gunbound adik. i always have so much fun doing things with her. i am fond of her, that's why. she makes me smile like this wide ^_______________________^

anyways, a couple of days ago, tonette and i were talking about a tradition about force marriage or something like that. she wants me to write something about it and what my views are. here goes nothing.

forced marriage is a shotgun marriage. where either of the party gets to point a gun on another party's head just to say yes for the wedding. sad to say but there is a culture that is so ok with it. first is the chinese culture. they call it or we call it, "buya". i don't know if that's the right spelling but that is how we say it. anyways, the chinese wants to keep their family's wealth by forcing their relative's children to marry each other. so the wealth will just go round and round within the family and not to other families. the muslim has this one too. i don't know how they call it and i don't know what's its purpose. they also have this thing where a person can marry more than twice. as a Catholic, i can say it's no good. but we have to accept the fact that they are a lot of different cultures that exists. we are indeed strange. yeah yeah, i've heard a lot of people say, "if only the whole world is like this and that and that....". come to think of it, if we are all the same, if we are all good and all, don't you think the world is a boring place to live? married couples have lots of differences but it will be all good if they get to choose whose difference they can love.

forced marriage is somewhat weird. you get to marry someone you don't like (mostly) and someone you don't have any plans to be your wife/husband. should i say abolish it? yes, i want to but what can i do? start an organization and go march to the congress hall? this kind of culture or practice is difficult to get rid of completely because it has been there for ages already. if i really have the guts to do it, i know what i will look like in the end. i would probably look like a dwarf that has been dipped in a bucket full of pubic hair.

i know we are all different. i choose this culture, this religion, and this practice. marry one and die for that one. if you are looking for someone who is just like you, im sorry to tell you that you will never find someone like you. we are all unique in our own ways. God created us with imperfections so that we will need each other. yeah, our Daddy is smart. picture a world where all people are perfect, has everything and all that crazy things. i picture a world with no love. marrying everyone does not make you perfect. marrying everyone does not make it any better.

i don't know about you but i don't want us to be all perfect. moreover, i don't want to marry someone just because my parents want me to marry her. it will only result to adultery and all that bad stuff. what an ugly scene will it be.

forced marriage does not work for me but it works for some people. let's respect that and hope that it will soon be cut off.

i think that's it. if you want to correct me or add more to it, just post a comment.